You have choices.
I remember hearing “You have choices” at the beginning of my journey and thinking that people were referring to whether I should leave my marriage or not. However, I began…
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Insight For the Sex Addict: Your Partner Is Not Your Accountability Partner (SA Sponsor, Peer Support, Support Person, or Recovery Partner)
Asking the person you betrayed to participate in your recovery as an accountability partner is a bad idea. Someone new to betrayal trauma healing recently expressed her frustration with managing…
Detachment isn’t a dirty word
Detaching from your sex addict can be challenging, but it is necessary for your healing. Detachment is usually suggested under the assumption that the betrayed partner is codependent or lacks…
Gripe of the Month:
One of the most common questions betrayed partners ask that drives me crazy! But I get it. “How long will it take my partner to be sober and completely recovered…
Welcome to 2026! It’s time to set those healing goals.
Have you considered your 2026 healing goals yet? Just as we set professional, health, spiritual, and other goals, I believe establishing your 2026 healing goals is equally important. If I…
What I appreciate about my husband’s recovery efforts.
In keeping with the spirit of the season, I wanted to share what I appreciate about my husband’s recovery efforts. I know this may sound crazy, after all, I usually…
The Betrayal Trauma journey takes courage; lots of it.
Deciding to heal from betrayal trauma and what to do about your relationship with the sex addict takes a great deal of courage. Yet, we often fail to recognize the…
The Gift of Connection with those who get it (even if it’s one other person).
I’ve written about the value of a support group in the past, but I want to examine the benefits of connection when you go beyond attending a support group. For…
Insight for the Addict: Safety is Key for your partner.
Some addicts ask what they can do to encourage the partner they’ve betrayed to trust them again. The answer is complicated, but I believe safety is one of the most…
Living in Reality: What does that really mean?
What does it mean to live in reality when you are healing from betrayal trauma? Does it mean crying and screaming every day? Berating your partner daily or ignoring your…
