You have choices.
I remember hearing “You have choices” at the beginning of my journey and thinking that people were referring to whether I should leave my marriage or not. However, I began…
Category: General Share
These are thoughts, questions, opinions or shares that I wish to disclose in hopes of provoking thought, support, discussion, affirmation of your own struggle or all of the above.
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Support groups, Books, Therapists, and more – Take what applies to you and throw out the rest!
Betrayal trauma healing can be very overwhelming, especially at the beginning. You are probably drowning in pain you didn’t ask for or deserve. However, you are desperate for any tool…
Detachment isn’t a dirty word
Detaching from your sex addict can be challenging, but it is necessary for your healing. Detachment is usually suggested under the assumption that the betrayed partner is codependent or lacks…
Welcome to 2026! It’s time to set those healing goals.
Have you considered your 2026 healing goals yet? Just as we set professional, health, spiritual, and other goals, I believe establishing your 2026 healing goals is equally important. If I…
What I appreciate about my husband’s recovery efforts.
In keeping with the spirit of the season, I wanted to share what I appreciate about my husband’s recovery efforts. I know this may sound crazy, after all, I usually…
The Betrayal Trauma journey takes courage; lots of it.
Deciding to heal from betrayal trauma and what to do about your relationship with the sex addict takes a great deal of courage. Yet, we often fail to recognize the…
The Gift of Connection with those who get it (even if it’s one other person).
I’ve written about the value of a support group in the past, but I want to examine the benefits of connection when you go beyond attending a support group. For…
Living in Reality: What does that really mean?
What does it mean to live in reality when you are healing from betrayal trauma? Does it mean crying and screaming every day? Berating your partner daily or ignoring your…
Partners of Sex addicts have rights
For me, the Bill of Rights was something to learn about to earn a good grade in school. I knew about Civil and Women’s Rights, but the Bill of Rights…
There is no Magic Formula for his healing.
I’ve witnessed many women come to support groups with one burning question, “What will it take to fix him so our life can get back to normal?” Don’t we wish…
