There is no Magic Formula for his healing.
I’ve witnessed many women come to support groups with one burning question, “What will it take to fix him so our life can get back to normal?” Don’t we wish…
Category: Gripes
This blog isn’t all sunshine and roses because the healing process isn’t. There were times in my process where things made me downright angry and still do at times. Comments in the media, shares from other people recovering, comments from sex addicts, the material I read, jokes I heard, statements made in church, and the list goes on and on. This section is where I get to share my gripes and one of the reasons I decided to begin a blog in the first place. I wanted to share my thoughts in a frank manner, even if they were negative. However, the purpose isn’t just to gripe; I wish to provoke thought, support, discussion, affirmation of your own struggle, or all of the above that honors where you are in your healing journey.
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STUCK- a harsh reality of individual and couples healing impacted by sex addiction
Do you ever feel stuck in your healing process? If you answered “yes,” please know it’s not uncommon. Whether you feel stuck in your healing or your relationship with the…
The role of faith leadership when it comes to counseling others regarding betrayal trauma and sex addiction.
The faith community can be the foundation for one’s healing from sex addiction or betrayal trauma, leading them to seek counsel from their pastors, preachers, clergy, cardinals, priestesses, bishop, rabbis, reverends,…
Gripe:
You are not the addict’s accountability partner; say NO to “unhealthy dumps”!* *The addict is considered a male for simplicity, but I fully recognize that the addict can be a…
Triggers Suck
I know the title is a little vulgar, but when I first decided to write this blog, I said I would be honest. There is no other way I can…
The INSANITY of Sex Addiction
When I first realized my husband was a sex addict, I bought many books, read all I could find online, and studied my materials from the groups I attended to…
Gripe of the Month: The SICKNESS excuse only goes so far!
*I refer to the addict as a male in this post for consistency. One of the most complex components of sex addiction I had to grasp was accepting sexaholism as…
Gripe of the Month: Sex Addiction and Alcoholism are not the same!
I try to post one “gripe” entry a month because betrayal trauma healing is not a bed of roses, and we dishonor those healing from betrayal trauma by not addressing…
HIS SHAMEFUL BEHAVIOR CAN BE YOUR BURDEN IF YOU CHOOSE TO CARRY IT.
I focus on one aspect of the betrayal trauma healing process I find unenjoyable or unfair. I do this because I rarely hear partners discuss these issues, but I know…
Does your sex addict have the mindset of an eager beaver, or is he still trying to drive the “relationship” car?–Pt. 2
Last week we looked at the importance of the eager beaver mindset in sex addict versus the sex addict who doesn’t recognize his lazy approach to recovery is hurting the…