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These are thoughts, questions, opinions or shares that I wish to disclose in hopes of provoking thought, support, discussion, affirmation of your own struggle or all of the above.

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Oct 7, 2025October 7, 2025

The Gift of Connection with those who get it (even if it’s one other person).

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I’ve written about the value of a support group in the past, but I want to examine the benefits of connection when you go beyond attending a support group.  For…

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Aug 28, 2025August 28, 2025

Living in Reality: What does that really mean?

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What does it mean to live in reality when you are healing from betrayal trauma?  Does it mean crying and screaming every day? Berating your partner daily or ignoring your…

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Feb 17, 2025February 18, 2025

Partners of Sex addicts have rights

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For me, the Bill of Rights was something to learn about to earn a good grade in school. I knew about Civil and Women’s Rights, but the Bill of Rights…

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Nov 18, 2024November 19, 2024

There is no Magic Formula for his healing.

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I’ve witnessed many women come to support groups with one burning question, “What will it take to fix him so our life can get back to normal?”  Don’t we wish…

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Oct 23, 2024October 26, 2024

Defining “acceptable” and “unacceptable” behavior with your sex addict on your healing journey.

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How do you define “acceptable” or “unacceptable” behavior when interacting with your sex addict?  Many of my blog entries refer to “acceptable” and “unacceptable” behavior, assuming readers have clarified this…

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Jun 25, 2024June 25, 2024

STUCK- a harsh reality of individual and couples healing impacted by sex addiction

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Do you ever feel stuck in your healing process? If you answered “yes,” please know it’s not uncommon.  Whether you feel stuck in your healing or your relationship with the…

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May 20, 2024May 19, 2024

The role of faith leadership when it comes to counseling others regarding betrayal trauma and sex addiction.

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The faith community can be the foundation for one’s healing from sex addiction or betrayal trauma, leading them to seek counsel from their pastors, preachers, clergy, cardinals, priestesses, bishop, rabbis, reverends,…

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Apr 8, 2024March 27, 2024

You can be INTENTIONAL in your healing. (Pt. 2)

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Intentional healing can also be considered a mindset that drives one to heal well or not at all.  The healing efforts are worth it because of the benefits.  If one…

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Mar 25, 2024March 27, 2024

You can be INTENTIONAL in your healing. (Pt. 1)

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When I think of intentional healing as it relates to betrayal trauma, I think of deliberate actions and plans one chooses in preparation to move on in one’s life healthily. …

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Sep 25, 2023January 31, 2024

HEALTHY SEXUALITY FOR PARTNERS OF SEX ADDICTS—YES, IT’S POSSIBLE!

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My goal in this blog entry is to share how I arrived at a definition of healthy sexuality that makes sense for me at this stage of my healing.   Partners…

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I started this blog because I couldn't find a resource that validated what I felt when I learned my husband was a sex addict. All I wanted was frank talk, no definitions, recovery speech, or minimization of what I was feeling. I hope you feel validated, heard, and understood when reading my blog posts. I try not to give advice; I share my experience with each topic to provide partners of sex addicts hope for their healing from betrayal trauma. To learn more, please read the "My Story" tab at the top of this page. If you like what you see and find this blog helpful, please share it with others; no one should feel alone on this yucky journey. I would love to hear from you. Please contact me at joy@betrayednotbroken.com. Most importantly, please remember you deserve to give yourself the time to heal well from betrayal trauma.

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“Rock bottom became the solid foundation in which I rebuilt my life.”– J.K. Rowling

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How is your journaling coming along? As we approach October, let’s examine our healing fears. What fears are you juggling as you heal from betrayal trauma? What fears do you have regarding your own healing journey? If your partner is still in the picture, what fears do you have for your partner? I think you will find writing about your worries may help you see them in a different light.

July Journal Prompt: What do I need to feel safe with the addict in my life?

Even if you are no longer with the recovering sex addict, it’s important to know what you need in a relationship as you move on in your life.  Please take some time to consider what you need. Perhaps write a list or write a letter to your addict. Your safety is important. Don’t judge what you need; acknowledge it, and clarify this to yourself and the addict.

 

May Journal Prompt:

How can you be easier on yourself this month as you continue to help from betrayal trauma?

Self-Care Challenge:

Make a list of ten affirmations you can say to yourself daily.

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April Journaling Prompt:

 

 

 

What puts a smile on your face despite what you may be going through?

 

 

 

 

 

March Journal Prompt:

What do you appreciate the most thus far about your healing journey?

Self-care Challenge:

Do something this month that makes you smile.

February Journal Prompt: List ten things you love about yourself and why.

February Self-care Challenge:  Spend at least one hour doing your hobby this month.  If you don’t have a hobby, this is the time to explore until you find one you enjoy.