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Author: Joy P. Jamison

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Aug 4, 2022August 4, 2022

TOOL OF THE MONTH:

Tools for you! 2

NATURE…a worthy refuge There are physical, mental, and emotional benefits to experiencing nature, especially if you are healing from betrayal trauma.  My house backs up to the wilderness, so it…

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Jul 25, 2022July 15, 2022

Does your sex addict have the mindset of an eager beaver, or is he still trying to drive the “relationship” car?–Pt. 2

Gripes 2

Last week we looked at the importance of the eager beaver mindset in sex addict versus the sex addict who doesn’t recognize his lazy approach to recovery is hurting the…

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Jul 18, 2022July 30, 2022

Does your sex addict have the mindset of an eager beaver, or is he still trying to drive the “relationship” car?–Pt. 1

Gripes 2

One of my pet peeves is the addict who lacks the eager beaver mindset.  I am referring to a sex addict who is lackadaisical in his recovery approach and efforts…

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Jul 1, 2022January 18, 2023

Let’s talk about ANXIETY!

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Anxiety is an essential topic because you can’t talk about healing from betrayal trauma caused by the actions of sex addicts without looking at anxiety.   Fear of the unknown can…

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Jun 24, 2022

How do you deal with weddings when healing from Betrayal Trauma: To attend or not to attend?

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Summer tends to be a season of weddings which can be potential triggers for those healing from Betrayal Trauma.  I love weddings; they are joyous occasions where friends, families, neighbors,…

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Jun 12, 2022June 14, 2022

When will he start behaving so my life will get better?

General Share, Gripes

I have heard this sentiment expressed more times than I wish to admit. Some women come into support groups knowing their husbands have a problem and believe all issues will…

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Jun 6, 2022June 8, 2022

Tool of the Month:  Restorative Yoga

Tools for you!

I chose Restorative yoga as the tool I want to highlight this month.  Restorative yoga has been a great tool for my healing journey.  Restorative yoga is defined as “a…

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May 31, 2022June 8, 2022

You deserve an Amends or Restitution

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The Living Amends (Atonement) or Restitution Letter is a sincere apology that includes acknowledging the past harms, the effects of those harms, recognizing the impact of those harms on you…

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May 8, 2022June 19, 2022

Affirmations – if you speak it, you can believe it. I believe you can heal well, my friend!

Tools for you!

Affirmations are one of my favorite tools. I used affirmations at the beginning of my healing journey. Today, I use them when I need to pause and examine how I…

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Apr 25, 2022April 17, 2022

A Cost Letter can be very Helpful (Pt. 2)

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Why is writing and reading the Cost letter important for your healing? It’s one thing not to be ready to take this step, but it’s another thing not to see…

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I started this blog because I couldn't find a resource that validated what I felt when I learned my husband was a sex addict. All I wanted was frank talk, no definitions, recovery speech, or minimization of what I was feeling. I hope you feel validated, heard, and understood when reading my blog posts. I try not to give advice; I share my experience with each topic to provide partners of sex addicts hope for their healing from betrayal trauma. To learn more, please read the "My Story" tab at the top of this page. If you like what you see and find this blog helpful, please share it with others; no one should feel alone on this yucky journey. I would love to hear from you. Please contact me at joy@betrayednotbroken.com. Most importantly, please remember you deserve to give yourself the time to heal well from betrayal trauma.

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“Rock bottom became the solid foundation in which I rebuilt my life.”– J.K. Rowling

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How is your journaling coming along? As we approach October, let’s examine our healing fears. What fears are you juggling as you heal from betrayal trauma? What fears do you have regarding your own healing journey? If your partner is still in the picture, what fears do you have for your partner? I think you will find writing about your worries may help you see them in a different light.

July Journal Prompt: What do I need to feel safe with the addict in my life?

Even if you are no longer with the recovering sex addict, it’s important to know what you need in a relationship as you move on in your life.  Please take some time to consider what you need. Perhaps write a list or write a letter to your addict. Your safety is important. Don’t judge what you need; acknowledge it, and clarify this to yourself and the addict.

 

May Journal Prompt:

How can you be easier on yourself this month as you continue to help from betrayal trauma?

Self-Care Challenge:

Make a list of ten affirmations you can say to yourself daily.

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April Journaling Prompt:

 

 

 

What puts a smile on your face despite what you may be going through?

 

 

 

 

 

March Journal Prompt:

What do you appreciate the most thus far about your healing journey?

Self-care Challenge:

Do something this month that makes you smile.

February Journal Prompt: List ten things you love about yourself and why.

February Self-care Challenge:  Spend at least one hour doing your hobby this month.  If you don’t have a hobby, this is the time to explore until you find one you enjoy.