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There is no Magic Formula for his healing.
If you're new here, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Thanks for visiting! I’ve witnessed many women come to support groups with one burning question, “What will…
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Defining “acceptable” and “unacceptable” behavior with your sex addict on your healing journey.
How do you define “acceptable” or “unacceptable” behavior when interacting with your sex addict? Many of my blog entries refer to “acceptable” and “unacceptable” behavior, assuming readers have clarified this…
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Insights for the sex addict: Your partner most likely will never be the same if she’s taking her healing seriously. (Part 1)
When partners begin their healing journey, they usually experience shock, disappointment, emotional distress, or possibly PTSD. With time, these betrayal trauma symptoms decrease. Partners tend to evolve into their best…
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STUCK- a harsh reality of individual and couples healing impacted by sex addiction
Do you ever feel stuck in your healing process? If you answered “yes,” please know it’s not uncommon. Whether you feel stuck in your healing or your relationship with the…
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The role of faith leadership when it comes to counseling others regarding betrayal trauma and sex addiction.
The faith community can be the foundation for one’s healing from sex addiction or betrayal trauma, leading them to seek counsel from their pastors, preachers, clergy, cardinals, priestesses, bishop, rabbis, reverends,…
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You can be INTENTIONAL in your healing. (Pt. 2)
Intentional healing can also be considered a mindset that drives one to heal well or not at all. The healing efforts are worth it because of the benefits. If one…
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You can be INTENTIONAL in your healing. (Pt. 1)
When I think of intentional healing as it relates to betrayal trauma, I think of deliberate actions and plans one chooses in preparation to move on in one’s life healthily. …
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Insight For the Addict: Get rid of the secrets!
If you want to be in a relationship with someone who knows you’re a recovering sex addict, honesty is not optional, it’s essential. This may seem like an obvious expectation, but…
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Tool of the Month: Journaling
When it comes to betrayal trauma healing, journaling isn’t just writing to be writing. Journaling is a way to explore your doubts, emotions, and pain. Thankfully, this tool can be…
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Insight for the addict: Possible reasons your partner asks the same questions repeatedly.
Some sex addicts don’t understand why their partners repeatedly ask the same questions after receiving the truth through disclosure or confession. I mean, it was a big deal for you…
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Take it easy on yourself!
I will never stop saying healing from betrayal trauma is challenging and requires much work for the betrayed partner to heal well. It has been one of the most difficult…
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The INSANITY of Sex Addiction
When I first realized my husband was a sex addict, I bought many books, read all I could find online, and studied my materials from the groups I attended to…
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Self–Compassion: Be kind to yourself!
Everyone told me the healing journey would take a lot of work which I interpreted as climbing a mountain without breaks, water, or rest. If hard work is what it…
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Gripe of the Month: The SICKNESS excuse only goes so far!
*I refer to the addict as a male in this post for consistency. One of the most complex components of sex addiction I had to grasp was accepting sexaholism as…
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Tool of the Month: Dance Aerobics
This month’s Tool of the Month is Dance Aerobics. Before you roll your eyes or ask, seriously? Please hang in there with me before you conclude this blog entry is…
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Valentine’s Day is around the corner – Please consider celebrating Self-Love!
February is the month for celebrating love, which is a worthy recognition. However, I think it’s even more critical for those healing from betrayal trauma to celebrate self-love. After all,…
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Happy Anniversary! Let’s celebrate with a new blog category.
January 31st marks the first anniversary of Betrayed, Not Broken. I am so grateful for the readers, especially those who expressed appreciation for their validation. God’s grace and a dear…
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Welcome to 2023:
What I hope for each of you this year! Welcome to 2023! How have your first two weeks been thus far? Whether or not you want it, time keeps moving,…
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Welcome
IS THIS BLOG FOR YOU? If a sex addict has betrayed you, whether you are still in the relationship or not, this blog may be for you. You may have…
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MY STORY – PART ONE
My husband and I used to watch porn together occasionally when we dated in college, and I thought it was just a dumb and stupid thing all guys did, so…
For the addict: Your partner most likely will never be the same if she’s taking her healing seriously. (Part 2)
5. Your partner may ask more questions than she did before repeatedly, such as: – How late will you be home from the work event? – I noticed you withdrew…